Imposter Syndrome seems to be a popular term these days….
It's good that people are being real!
Personally I find that when I work with clients who are high on emotional intelligence and often very smart and talented - there is a common theme .."am I good enough". I suppose the human condition is to compare ourselves to others.
The greater the sense of personal identity and acceptance - the greater the achievements. Is it the chicken or the egg?
Do we gain confidence by doing or do we decide to accept ourselves and become bolder in the doing? I know that small incremental successes breed confidence - especially when doing something new where uncertainty is high and the subconscious kicks in with fear and thinks there could be a tiger ahead.
What is 'good enough' anyway?
Achieving a goal?
Being as good as someone else?
Why not be really good at being you. Working on your own talents and skills and knowing that being unique in who you are and what you create is the most...
What would you do if you were 3 times bolder than you are right now?
If you are not being bold enough it's usually because fear is hiding behind - literally pulling you back from your path and destiny.
High performers experience uncertainty because they push the boundaries all the time - so the future is unknown. This uncertainty can breed either more fear or what I call collateral courage© - the ability to create and move forward boldly in spite of uncertainty or fear.
What is stopping you from having the MONEY you deserve? 3 MIND-SET truths that will set you free to grow more money.
TRUTH NO 1: Belief
What do you believe about money? Is it easy to get?
Do you always have enough? Or not enough?
What are you expecting?
Do you know much about how money works or is it something you avoid? Note: If you are in sales, your mindset about spending is probably impacting your ability to sell more.
There comes a time when we need to recognise what our beliefs and thoughts are in relation to money. If you know that you have negative thoughts – then it’s never too late to change.
ACTION: Start by writing down what you believe about money.
Journal every day for a week by noting down words that you associate when you think about money. For example: Thinking about paying a bill = pain. Saving for a holiday = I can’t afford it. Do these sound familiar? Capture those thoughts first.
When you capture...
Are your emotions costing you money and sales?
Hands up if you are like me and get a new idea every second day?Or maybe you have a new emotion every few hours? Let’s face it – it’s the blessing and curse of the entrepreneur – the one who can’t get through 10 minutes in the morning without being distracted by an email link, an exciting video or a phone message. Sounding familiar?
Sometimes I start the day really well – feeling great, get up, exercise and write a list – and then I walk into my office and experience severe procrastination because I’ve seen the chaos on my desk. My husband called it “Hurricane Louise”. All my plans go out the window and I lose focus on what I had planned to do because of feelings of overwhelm.
The DNA of the entrepreneur is often someone who has high right brain tendencies, ie: emotional and creative. This is truly an amazing and wonderful thing.. we have...
It takes courage to face the things that are holding us back.
Commonly, people will deal with issues that seem too hard to overcome – by avoiding them. However, in avoidance we also find pain.
So how does it all start?
We all have expectations about how things might work out. And when the outcome isn’t what we expected – disappointment is a hidden trigger that can lead us down the path to greater emotional challenges. It can start with a small thing, an expectation not met – a failure at work, or in a relationship, or a financial loss.
Here’s a few keys to tackling disappointment:Recognise the first point of disappointment
Is there a pattern of disappointment in one area of life? Do you ‘always’ have problems with money for example? Or are you constantly treated badly at work? Are you worried about going for job interviews because of...
Tuesday was Suicide Prevention Day. Did you know that suicide is the leading cause of death for 15-44 year olds, and that 20% of suicides stem from work related stress?
With this in mind, it is important to make sure you are not overworking yourself, and are taking time in the day to rest. Here are some steps to take if you feel you need a mental rewiring:
When I was a kid we were taught to be really polite. I mean REALLY polite.
We were taught to think of others before ourselves, always. And I subscribe to that. I really do. I am ALL about helping others. And most of my clients are the same.
Except there's a catch....
If you don't get what you want, you can't help as many people.
And in ALWAYS putting others first... you get pretty good at making excuses to not do what you truly believe you are meant to do. And you miss out on having the FUN, money and love that you need, if you don't balance the giving with the receiving.
Being a martyr...It's the ultimate SABOTAGE strategy.
It happens all the time to high performers, leaders.... "I'm already doing so much. Working so hard. I've already achieved a lot. I don't have enough time. I already have too much responsibility. I need my work life to improve before I can start that business. I have tried before and it didn't...
One for the visionaries...
I recently had someone I know say something that was 'well meaning' but negative. I'm a very open person - so I share a lot of myself. But I have learned that you need to have wisdom in what you share and with whom.
If you are a visionary and an adventurous person - someone who has a fire in your belly - you won't be 'normal'. You'll dream about things others don't dream about. Most people won't get you.
People will look at you from a certain perspective, from their paradigm of life. They won't always understand what drives you, or understand what you understand. People may be well meaning, but if they don't get your vision then they can't speak on it because they just don't know how to.
When you decide what to do in the future, get wise counsel from people who have a big capacity to see your potential.
You'll get all sorts of advice, but it's important to sift through it. I know that I've listened to people who have steered me off track in business or...
Doesn't matter if you've fallen. Can you get up?
Doesn't matter if someone said No to you. Say yes to your next step.
Doesn't matter if it’s hard to go forward... make a decision you'll do it anyway.
Doesn't matter if you're not sure of the path ahead… keep moving...moving creates momentum.
Doesn't matter if there are negative people around you. Choose to own your own energy.
Doesn't matter if you failed before. You have the resources within you to create success. One small success breeds confidence. Go for one small one.
Doesn't matter if you feel fearful... passion and purpose trump fear.
Doesn't matter what has stopped you. Decide where you want to go and focus on that.
Doesn't matter who you spoke to last and said no to you. Who will you speak to next?
Doesn't matter if you're not perfect yet. You're good enough.
Be you... reach forward... don't stop...
Doesn't matter unless you allow it to matter.
Louise Taylor is a Neuro-Linguistics and Sales Expert - and has been working with high performers for over 25 years - helping them to achieve their personal and financial goals.
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